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As little as 40 years ago, interracial dating was illegal and viewed very negatively. Sadly, closed minded individuals made interracial dating and marriage very hard for those that fell in love with someone of another race.
Fortunately, interracial dating has progressed quite a bit since that horrible period. There are still groups of people that find biracial relationships distasteful but it really doesn’t make any difference in the long run. People can love and marry whomever they want even though there are still some issues to deal with.
One of the biggest obstacles that interracial couples must overcome is family disapproval. It doesn’t happen as often as it used to as people have become more accepting of interracial relationships. However, there’s still the chance that one or both families won’t approve of the relationship. This can be devastating to the couple when it happens as love is something that’s supposed to be wonderful and happy. Of course, they want their families to share in their excitement and happiness. Instead, they feel hurt and alone.
These family members can often be the couples’ grandparents or parents that disapprove because of the era they were raised in. Grandparents, especially, may have been brought up during the years when biracial couples were looked down on. If you’re in this sort of situation, try to remember that you have to live your life no matter what your family thinks.
Should their close mindedness make you too miserable, or if they decide that you must choose between the family and your love, you cannot feel bad if you decide to choose happiness with your partner over the selfishness of your family. They should be supporting you. If they aren’t, you can try family counseling if they’re willing but most people suffering from racism can’t be convinced that they’re wrong.
Something that many interracial couples do is actively seek out the company of other biracial couples or gay/lesbian couples. Many of these couples have also experienced rejection in some form or another and know exactly what you’re going through. This can help you to relax and have fun while giving you a completely new group of friends to hang out with. This group will welcome you and be happy for you and your relationship.
In fact, if you need it, these new friends can be a huge source of support for you if you must deal with disapproval from your family members or society in general. The more you hang out with other interracial or gay/lesbian couples, the more comfortable you’ll feel in your own relationship and what others say or think just won’t be important to you any longer.
There are even online support groups for interracial couples. This is often a great way to meet other couples near you. Finding one of these support groups and hearing how others handle the different obstacles is a really good way to deal with any problems you might be facing.
While it can be hard to handle the views of ignorant people, you still have to remain strong and live your own life. Since interracial relationships can be difficult due to pressure from other people, there may be various issues to deal with. However, try to live your life and do what makes you happy. You’ll be able to move past any of these problems.